You Need to Have a “Come to Jesus” Moment With Yourself.

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Have you ever had a “come to Jesus” moment? With yourself? For someone else? I’ve had several, and each time I’ve learned the truth about myself whether I wanted to hear it or not. There are two things I need to acknowledge, however, before moving forward:

  1. What’s a “come to Jesus” moment?
  2. And what qualifies as a “come to Jesus” moment, who needs it, and when should it take place?

Now I know that question two was a bit loaded. But let’s address my reasoning behind this post first before answering the questions. There’s been a lot of back and forth in my life recently. Dealing with family, career, and everything in between. The only thing keeping me sane at this point is prayer and my faith. I’ve been exploring several options career-wise, going on interviews, getting rejected, and nothing seems to pan out.

And you could say well, join the club. There’s a lot of people experiencing rejection whether it’s with family, career, what have you. And you’re right, but maybe by me addressing this topic, I could help someone else out who might not know how to sort through everything. My reason for this post is because I am having a “come to Jesus” moment with myself right now.

I am acknowledging that I am not satisfied with how things are happening in my life, so this brings me to my first question: What’s considered a “come to Jesus” moment? Everyone has their own opinion, but I feel that having this sort of moment means that you’re acknowledging what is happening within your life or someone else’s life that you may care about, and you would like to see a positive change happen.

What qualifies as a “come to Jesus” moment, who needs it, and when should it take place? Acknowledging that you have certain situations happening in your life that you might not agree with, and willing to discuss it is what I feel qualifies as that moment. Anyone can have it, and it can take place anywhere. Over the phone, in person, even via email. 

Life is full of ups and downs, but taking those lessons in both the good and bad is honestly what I feel life is about. It’s about the journey. How you’ve managed to improve your life and make it better than say last year.

download (1)Improvement. Acknowledgment. Discussion. These are just three areas that I’ve been a part of in order to work through my own “come to Jesus” moment. I’ve acknowledged that there was an issue within my life, I’ve discussed that specific issue with who I needed to whether in prayer or talking with someone, and I’ve worked towards improving as best I can so that the issue/situation doesn’t linger if it doesn’t need to.

This saying “come to Jesus” moment is actually a saying that most are familiar with, but have maybe used a different saying or tactic behind getting to the resolution. Everyone’s different. This is my way of putting it out in the universe as a reminder to again, acknowledge my problems and try my best to rectify them as best I can.

Blessings,

M

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Indifference

I love you, but our circumstances aren’t so great

I wish you would change but only you can want that for yourself

Only you can see that there is something wrong with this dynamic

I don’t want to say you’re toxic because I love and care for you too much, but my heart aches each and every time you walk through the door

My heart aches each and every time you walk out the door

Back and forth. It’s like a tug-of-war with no winner

Just aches and pains as I watch sacrifices being made even if it means jeopardizing the peace that is here when you’re gone

But these are just my thoughts

The good should out way the bad

I love you, but I can’t sacrifice my peace for  your enjoyment

Three Tips for Overcoming Your Fear in the Workforce

Happy September 2, 2017, everyone! I hope all of you are doing well. It has been an interesting year thus far for me. Applying for jobs, going on interviews, getting rejected, writing a second book (insert nervous emoji), blogging for different sites, reading, and continuously trying to figure out my purpose here on earth.

I noticed that the blog sphere is continuing to change, which is a good thing, but that also means I need to step up my game. I think about the very first article I published or some of the people I’ve followed over the years, and I have to say that this blog has come a long way, and I am proud of that! It has been a lot of trial and error, and I feel will continue to be. But that’s the beauty of writing, of figuring things out.

Recently, I had the opportunity to write for AbilityLinks once again. This article focuses on overcoming your fear specifically within the workforce. The purpose of this post is to provide three tips that can be useful when entering the workforce whether this is your first time or you’re re-entering into the workforce for whatever reason.

Feel free to take a look, leave a comment, or share this article. Trying to either gain entry into the workforce or maintain your position can be difficult, so hopefully, these three tips can serve as a friendly reminder as you’re on your journey.

 

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Blessings,

M

 

Comfortable in my own skin + disability

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable can be nerve-wracking. Should I open up? Should I not open up? What will people say? I can’t speak for everyone, but there’s this freeing feeling of being able to let go and just be yourself. I struggled with whether I would write about how I truly feel about having a disability and whether I would share it with one of the most well-renounced sites for people with disabilities, The Mighty.

I decided to move forward with having my article published on The Mighty site with the hope that someone, somewhere could relate. So, I am posting on here with the same intention. Maybe someone somewhere can relate to my story, and I welcome those of you to read, share, like, or comment!

https://themighty.com/2017/07/developing-comfort-in-your-own-skin-with-a-disability/

“Embrace Your Creativity” – Jireh Martin

Jireh Martin is a freelance videographer and photographer who wants you to “embrace your creativity.” He’s going to school for Mass Communications and he shared with me why he chose this career field and ultimately what he plans to do once he graduates.

Take a look at what he had to say:

 

Blessings,

M

One on One With Frechena Russ

Hello Everyone,

This month I posted a review of aspiring fashion stylist Frechena Russ. If you haven’t read it, view it here: https://writeronwheelz.wordpress.com/2017/06/14/fashion-designing-with-a-twist-meet-blogger-and-aspiring-fashion-designer-rayellexo/. I decided to follow up with that by having her discuss being in the fashion industry and sharing what advice she has for aspiring fashion stylists.

Take a look at the video here:

If you like this video be sure to give it a thumbs up and subscribe to my YouTube channel.

Happy writing,

M

Fashion Designing with a Twist: Meet Blogger and Aspiring Fashion Designer RayelleXO

There’s much to be said about someone who refuses to succumb to the circumstances that they have been faced with. Being able to utilize what most would consider a hindrance and use it as a positive proving to yourself and others that you are capable of accomplishing anything you want says a lot.

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This is what Frechena Russ (Rayelle XO) has done for herself. Refusing to let having Cerebral palsy deter her from her dream of becoming a fashion designer, Russ has trailblazed a path that’s all her own creating RayelleXO: Always on the Go! – a blog showcasing various aspects of fashion from personal views to events, as well as highlighting influential individuals with disabilities.

Russ uses her blogging platform to engage and inform readers about the fashion industry and what she’s encountered along her journey. Her blog is a great start to what I feel will become an insightful and motivating go to for fashion entrepreneurs and the like.

 

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While I appreciate Russ’ content, I feel as if she should have included more information about her blog, as well as provided working links to her other social media platforms so that individuals could connect with her. I also feel that adding a visual element such as videos of the different events she attends or an opening video detailing and welcoming viewers to her sight would be a great addition. Also, incorporating interviews with various fashion designers/entrepreneurs would help to highlight her blog even more. Connecting with fellow fashion bloggers or writing for fashion sites not only utilizes her skills in a different area but also can help to promote her work and what she’s accomplished thus far.

 

It can be tough gaining entry into any career field, and I applaud Russ’ efforts in continuing to strive for her goals and make individuals take notice of her capabilities in a world where most people tend to shy away from people with disabilities. RayelleXO: Always on the Go! is just the beginning for this tenacious, humble, and hardworking individual!

**Be sure to stay tuned for an update regarding Frechena Russ!

 

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There’s a First Time for Everything

It’s been about two months since I posted something. I wanted to share a video with you all. I decided to try a new piece of equipment with the intent to help me with my Cerebral palsy. I’m willing to try new things and seeing as this was my first time on this machine, I have to say that I liked it.

Here is a photo of me on the machine and you can click the image to view the video footage.

Have you ever tried something new for the first time? What were your thoughts? Feelings? Share them with me in the comments section.

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Blessings,

M

Seven Ways Depression can Affect Your Life

Last year, I posted a blog post and invited you In My Mind once again. In this post, I admitted that I have depression. Admitting that was difficult for me because this meant that I was allowing myself to be vulnerable. More importantly,  it was a way for me to admit something I often kept to myself, and now I had to learn to accept it and move forward.

Often times, in the African American community, there is this unspoken stigma placed upon us where admitting our problems to an outside source (psychiatrist, friend, stranger) is not supposed to be done, because we deal with our “problems” amongst our family or internally handle our own situation.

As a Black female with a disability, I have faced a lot of obstacles both from outside sources and internally. Depression is one of them, and boy is it something. Some days I am happy, other days I’m sad, angry, and then without warning, I can experience a combination all in one day. And I feel that having Cerebral palsy only assists my depression along further.

Everyone has their bad days, but I think when you’re battling illnesses like depression, your bad days tend to happen a lot more frequently and last longer than you would like. Depression doesn’t just affect the person experiencing it, it can affect everyone involved in some capacity with this person.

So, I’ve decided to include seven ways I feel depression has affected my life, and I hope that my story can encourage someone to seek the help they need, or maybe some can relate to what I have to say and would like to share or leave a comment. The point is not to stay silent, rather it’s to educate/enlighten individuals about an illness that many people struggle with and the way in which it can affect them.

Here are seven ways depression affects my life:

  1. Feeling as if you’re not worthy of success, relationships, love, etc. 
  2. The constant emotional changes.
  3. Not having the energy to complete responsibilities/goals you have set for yourself.
  4. Having difficulty explaining to a loved one, friend, etc. what is going on with you. You can’t seem to find the right words to explain your depression.
  5. The constant comparison of yourself to others.
  6. The mental battle with yourself of knowing you want to feel better and do better, but you just can’t bring yourself to do this because you’re focused on the negative.
  7. The struggle of admitting your depressed in order to seek help because you feel as if you’ll be labeled in a negative light, so you just deal with it.

Again, these are just some ways in which this illness has affected my life. Everyone’s story is different, but I hope that those of you who read this and are struggling with depression can find comfort in knowing YOU’RE NOT ALONE and that you can seek help.

Blessings,

M

You Never Know Who’s Watching or Reading What You Post

It’s the small victories that can lead you to the bigger ones! I am forever grateful to all who have chosen to follow my blog, who continue to read my posts, like and share them 🙂 You all rock! And … Continue reading