The Wait: Its Relevancy or Lack Thereof

Hello Everyone,

I know it’s been a while since I have posted, but I’m back, and this time I came to share my thoughts on The WaitDPVo7n-U8AAtiJf

Yep, that book right there. The book was published over a year ago, and if you’re thinking “why waste your time giving feedback on a book that’s been out over a year?” My answer is simple: I’ve had it since last year, life situations took precedence over having time to read, and I finally got a chance to read it this year, and I JUST finished it. (Literally).

I was excited to read this book when it came out last year. I even posted on my social media accounts about it. I’ve always had a respect and love for Meagn Good’s work, and was introduced to Devon Franklin and his part in this book through knowing about Meagan. But that’s usually how it works, right? You may find out about another person you knew nothing about at first all because you know of the person they are connected too.

And that doesn’t just apply in what I like to refer to as “Hollyweird,” but it applies to life in general. But I digress. Back to this book. So, as I was saying. I was excited about this book. The title was appealing, the cover was nice, and as I stated, I’m a fan of Meagan so I thought why not give it a read. The title of The Wait. You’re being sold on this notion of ways you can find your true self in every aspect of your life, but most importantly, your love life.

And let’s face it, most people bought and read the book under that pretense. I’ll admit it, I did, and while they definitely provide that information inside (I won’t give too much away for those of you who haven’t read it but would like to), they fall a bit short because a lot of what I read are things I’ve heard before.

There are definitely some insightful tips, but there was nothing new that caught my attention or made me say wow! Now they do mention that this book might not be for everyone, and maybe I am one of those individuals, but what I found through reading all nine chapters of this book are these three things:

  • You must have a solid foundation with God and Jesus. If by chance you don’t, work on developing that relationship because it is more about your relationship with them than it is about anything else.
  • Love yourself. Figure out who you are, and continue on your journey of self-discovery in who you are and what you want.
  • Patience is a virtue. Being patient in any aspect of your life is important. Things do not happen when we may want them to. It’s all about trusting the foundation that has been built, yourself, but most importantly in knowing that Jesus Christ will deliver what he deems fit.

Yes, this book has moments sprinkled throughout of how Meagan and Devon met and made it work, and in today’s society we always want to know what’s happening in a celebrity’s life, so when they provide that insight into their world we jump at the chance, which is why I can see and understand how this book became a part of The New Times BestSeller’s List.

And yes, this book discusses sex and everything in between regarding that, but I think the best lesson learned throughout the entire book is you have to do what’s best for you, and if you believe in Jesus Christ then you know that your relationship is more important. Hebrews 11:6

Blessings,

M

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Indifference

I love you, but our circumstances aren’t so great

I wish you would change but only you can want that for yourself

Only you can see that there is something wrong with this dynamic

I don’t want to say you’re toxic because I love and care for you too much, but my heart aches each and every time you walk through the door

My heart aches each and every time you walk out the door

Back and forth. It’s like a tug-of-war with no winner

Just aches and pains as I watch sacrifices being made even if it means jeopardizing the peace that is here when you’re gone

But these are just my thoughts

The good should out way the bad

I love you, but I can’t sacrifice my peace for  your enjoyment

Three Tips for Overcoming Your Fear in the Workforce

Happy September 2, 2017, everyone! I hope all of you are doing well. It has been an interesting year thus far for me. Applying for jobs, going on interviews, getting rejected, writing a second book (insert nervous emoji), blogging for different sites, reading, and continuously trying to figure out my purpose here on earth.

I noticed that the blog sphere is continuing to change, which is a good thing, but that also means I need to step up my game. I think about the very first article I published or some of the people I’ve followed over the years, and I have to say that this blog has come a long way, and I am proud of that! It has been a lot of trial and error, and I feel will continue to be. But that’s the beauty of writing, of figuring things out.

Recently, I had the opportunity to write for AbilityLinks once again. This article focuses on overcoming your fear specifically within the workforce. The purpose of this post is to provide three tips that can be useful when entering the workforce whether this is your first time or you’re re-entering into the workforce for whatever reason.

Feel free to take a look, leave a comment, or share this article. Trying to either gain entry into the workforce or maintain your position can be difficult, so hopefully, these three tips can serve as a friendly reminder as you’re on your journey.

 

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Blessings,

M

 

Comfortable in my own skin + disability

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable can be nerve-wracking. Should I open up? Should I not open up? What will people say? I can’t speak for everyone, but there’s this freeing feeling of being able to let go and just be yourself. I struggled with whether I would write about how I truly feel about having a disability and whether I would share it with one of the most well-renounced sites for people with disabilities, The Mighty.

I decided to move forward with having my article published on The Mighty site with the hope that someone, somewhere could relate. So, I am posting on here with the same intention. Maybe someone somewhere can relate to my story, and I welcome those of you to read, share, like, or comment!

https://themighty.com/2017/07/developing-comfort-in-your-own-skin-with-a-disability/

“Embrace Your Creativity” – Jireh Martin

Jireh Martin is a freelance videographer and photographer who wants you to “embrace your creativity.” He’s going to school for Mass Communications and he shared with me why he chose this career field and ultimately what he plans to do once he graduates.

Take a look at what he had to say:

 

Blessings,

M

One on One With Frechena Russ

Hello Everyone,

This month I posted a review of aspiring fashion stylist Frechena Russ. If you haven’t read it, view it here: https://writeronwheelz.wordpress.com/2017/06/14/fashion-designing-with-a-twist-meet-blogger-and-aspiring-fashion-designer-rayellexo/. I decided to follow up with that by having her discuss being in the fashion industry and sharing what advice she has for aspiring fashion stylists.

Take a look at the video here:

If you like this video be sure to give it a thumbs up and subscribe to my YouTube channel.

Happy writing,

M

Fashion Designing with a Twist: Meet Blogger and Aspiring Fashion Designer RayelleXO

There’s much to be said about someone who refuses to succumb to the circumstances that they have been faced with. Being able to utilize what most would consider a hindrance and use it as a positive proving to yourself and others that you are capable of accomplishing anything you want says a lot.

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This is what Frechena Russ (Rayelle XO) has done for herself. Refusing to let having Cerebral palsy deter her from her dream of becoming a fashion designer, Russ has trailblazed a path that’s all her own creating RayelleXO: Always on the Go! – a blog showcasing various aspects of fashion from personal views to events, as well as highlighting influential individuals with disabilities.

Russ uses her blogging platform to engage and inform readers about the fashion industry and what she’s encountered along her journey. Her blog is a great start to what I feel will become an insightful and motivating go to for fashion entrepreneurs and the like.

 

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Russ featured with two ladies at media event

While I appreciate Russ’ content, I feel as if she should have included more information about her blog, as well as provided working links to her other social media platforms so that individuals could connect with her. I also feel that adding a visual element such as videos of the different events she attends or an opening video detailing and welcoming viewers to her sight would be a great addition. Also, incorporating interviews with various fashion designers/entrepreneurs would help to highlight her blog even more. Connecting with fellow fashion bloggers or writing for fashion sites not only utilizes her skills in a different area but also can help to promote her work and what she’s accomplished thus far.

 

It can be tough gaining entry into any career field, and I applaud Russ’ efforts in continuing to strive for her goals and make individuals take notice of her capabilities in a world where most people tend to shy away from people with disabilities. RayelleXO: Always on the Go! is just the beginning for this tenacious, humble, and hardworking individual!

**Be sure to stay tuned for an update regarding Frechena Russ!

 

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There’s a First Time for Everything

It’s been about two months since I posted something. I wanted to share a video with you all. I decided to try a new piece of equipment with the intent to help me with my Cerebral palsy. I’m willing to try new things and seeing as this was my first time on this machine, I have to say that I liked it.

Here is a photo of me on the machine and you can click the image to view the video footage.

Have you ever tried something new for the first time? What were your thoughts? Feelings? Share them with me in the comments section.

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Blessings,

M

Seven Ways Depression can Affect Your Life

Last year, I posted a blog post and invited you In My Mind once again. In this post, I admitted that I have depression. Admitting that was difficult for me because this meant that I was allowing myself to be vulnerable. More importantly,  it was a way for me to admit something I often kept to myself, and now I had to learn to accept it and move forward.

Often times, in the African American community, there is this unspoken stigma placed upon us where admitting our problems to an outside source (psychiatrist, friend, stranger) is not supposed to be done, because we deal with our “problems” amongst our family or internally handle our own situation.

As a Black female with a disability, I have faced a lot of obstacles both from outside sources and internally. Depression is one of them, and boy is it something. Some days I am happy, other days I’m sad, angry, and then without warning, I can experience a combination all in one day. And I feel that having Cerebral palsy only assists my depression along further.

Everyone has their bad days, but I think when you’re battling illnesses like depression, your bad days tend to happen a lot more frequently and last longer than you would like. Depression doesn’t just affect the person experiencing it, it can affect everyone involved in some capacity with this person.

So, I’ve decided to include seven ways I feel depression has affected my life, and I hope that my story can encourage someone to seek the help they need, or maybe some can relate to what I have to say and would like to share or leave a comment. The point is not to stay silent, rather it’s to educate/enlighten individuals about an illness that many people struggle with and the way in which it can affect them.

Here are seven ways depression affects my life:

  1. Feeling as if you’re not worthy of success, relationships, love, etc. 
  2. The constant emotional changes.
  3. Not having the energy to complete responsibilities/goals you have set for yourself.
  4. Having difficulty explaining to a loved one, friend, etc. what is going on with you. You can’t seem to find the right words to explain your depression.
  5. The constant comparison of yourself to others.
  6. The mental battle with yourself of knowing you want to feel better and do better, but you just can’t bring yourself to do this because you’re focused on the negative.
  7. The struggle of admitting your depressed in order to seek help because you feel as if you’ll be labeled in a negative light, so you just deal with it.

Again, these are just some ways in which this illness has affected my life. Everyone’s story is different, but I hope that those of you who read this and are struggling with depression can find comfort in knowing YOU’RE NOT ALONE and that you can seek help.

Blessings,

M

You Never Know Who’s Watching or Reading What You Post

It’s the small victories that can lead you to the bigger ones! I am forever grateful to all who have chosen to follow my blog, who continue to read my posts, like and share them 🙂 You all rock! And … Continue reading